Feature: Reignite 2018

An Evening of Love & Interaction for Married Muslim Couples

Family knits and bonds are one of the main frontiers of the Umm Fariha Network. Businesses that encourage this are what we strive to encourage in our communities.

Meet Zainab Alabi, owner of Zulu foods and creator of Re-ignite.

Re-ignite is an initiative of her catering business, Zulu foods and was aimed to promote it but it has grown to be much more than that.

Using tips from the Quran and Sunnah, the event aims to be an interactive session using real life scenarios from the couples present.

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Bye-bye Modest Fashion Nigeria – Identity Crisis Concluded

Six months ago we shared this post with you:

MODEST LIFESTYLE SERIES: HOW THE BOOMING #HIJABIFASHIONISTA TREND HAS TRIGGERED A SERIOUS IDENTITY CRISIS- PART 1 (Click link to read).

And though we thought we had solved our inner dilemma, deep down we were still conflicted about how to move forward with our online pages and brand image.

We kept everything as it was and decided not to take any rash decisions. We kept praying about it, we sought counsel from trusted friends and we waited patiently for clarity & Allah’s guidance on the matter.

Alhamdulillah, He never disappoints! Last Thursday our dear friend and sister Aida Azlin made an announcement which shifted something in us and finally we knew what needed to be done.

The irony is that almost exactly 2 years ago today we had a similar “penny drop moment” which involved Aida and The Umm Fariha Network and finding the clarity to move forward.

We documented that experience on this blog and reading it today gave us the biggest DEJA VU!! (Read Here and tell us if you agree!)

“When our heart is open to growth, we can most certainly achieve anything” Aida Azlin, AA

Earlier today our founder, Zahra Zakariya, hosted an Insta-live on our page to share the following things with our community:

  • Why we started the @modest_fashion_nigeria page in the 1st instance
  • Why the sudden (but not so sudden) decision to discontinue the page and fully integrate it with The Umm Fariha Network
  • Our top tips for getting unstuck when it comes to making tough decisions

Her key take-aways from the Insta-live session were:

  1. Don’t make any rash decisions. Wait until you are truly ready and when you are ready you’ll KNOW!
  2. Be patient, pray,ponder and seek trusted counsel
  3. Reconnect with your “WHY”
  4. Surrender the decision to Allah and listen to your heart
  5. Lastly, don’t be afraid to let go

If you missed the Insta-live session, you can listen to the audio replay here.

We look forward to this new phase in our journey and so happy you are joining us!

If you’re not a apart of our community yet, please join our mailing list.. lot and lots of exciting things in store.

Cheers to self-discovery, growth & fulfilment.

The Umm Fariha Team

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A LABOR OF LOVE

Today I remind myself that “yes it will be tough”.

I will feel some pain along the way.
I will give it my all and feel the fatigue that comes with pouring out ones heart into something one loves and creating something new. Continue reading

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Living Like The Sahabah – Sa’d Ibn Abi Waqqas.

Anas ibn Malik reported: We were sitting with the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and he said, “Coming upon you now is a man from the people of Paradise.” A man from the Ansar came whose beard was dishevelled by the water of ablution and he was carrying both of his shoes with his left hand. Continue reading

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Living Like The Sahabah – Bilal RA (Footsteps in Jannah).

There are so many reasons why Bilal (radi Allahu anhu) is a revered figure in our Islamic History. He was a slave prior to accepting the message of Islam and once his master Umayyah bin Khalaf heard about his conversion, Bilal was subjected to continuous torture in an effort to make him denounce his faith. Despite the brutal treatment he endured, Bilal remained firm in his belief until he was freed by Abu Bakr RA. Continue reading

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Wifey Wednesday: Be Intentionally Married


I got married at 23. I had finished school, had a good job, and it felt like marriage was the next thing to tick off on my list of to-dos. For me, I was getting married because it was the next thing to do, and it is also half of my faith. I don’t think that I ever really bothered deeply about the ramifications of the journey of being married.

My experience so far has taught me a great deal about going into and staying in a marriage intentionally. It has taught me that unlike a lot of things in our lives, we need to put way more thought into how we go into, and stay married.

I know a lot of women are more deliberate that I am when making decisions in marriage, but for anyone who is like me, I want to share with you how to “coast along” less, and be more mindful of how you live out your marriage.

Remember Why You Got Married

You may have gotten married for the sex. Or for kids. Or for half of your faith. Or simply for the companionship. It is important for the health of your marriage to always remember your reason(s).

Sometimes life and its curve balls happen and put our reasons on the back burner. We forget them and become immersed in things that may not help us or the health of our marriage. Our ‘why’ is what keeps us focused on what truly matters in the marriage, and ensures that day in day out that is what we are working on.

Even if you were someone who had some mundane ‘whys’ like me, it is never too late to take stock of your marriage and decide what your new ‘whys’ will be.

Discharge Your Duties with Ihsan (excellence)

I don’t know if it’s my part of the world, but there seems to be a lot more emphasis on what we should be receiving in our marriages these days than what we should be giving to our spouse.

As a Muslim however, part of me being intentional in my marriage is that I want to constantly strive to fulfil my duties with excellence. I want to look at the things that I do for my spouse and kids, and wonder how I can make it even better. I want to discharge my duties towards them, before asking for my rights.

Because for me, my newly reaffirmed ‘why’ for getting married is to use marriage as a means of seeking the pleasure of my Rabb.
When marriage becomes an act of worship to you, just like salah and fasting, you are even more intentional about how you carry it out.

Be positive

You can’t be intentional without being positive. You can’t strive towards growing a healthy marriage without filling up your positivity bucket. When everything you do in your marriage is carefully thought out so that it can bring out the best in you and your spouse, the only thing thoughts that will fill your head are positive thoughts.

Being intentionally married is a lot of work. It is about waking up daily with the resolve to keep working on your ‘whys’, because as the popular saying goes, “the grass is only greener where it is watered”.

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The journey of a wife to be: “Hmmm.. I think the habibi is here…”

Yaaay! Good news! don’t pretend, we all know this feeling most especially if you have been praying and waiting and then boom, this Maa shaa Allah brother finally finds his way, Now the thing is you are still thinking meaning you are not sure about him yet, they are reasons why you are not sure.These might depend on the way you were approached, the fact that you are looking at the physicals or the fact you haven’t had deep conversations with him yet and so on. Relax! don’t be worried!… Continue reading

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Wifey Wednesday: Seeking Useful Advice in Marriage


As I sat down to write this week’s column, I tried to think of those things that I wished that people told me before I got married, or early on in my marriage. And I came up with the issue of seeking advice as a married person.

We are usually told that what happens between a couple in their marriage stays between them. That you shouldn’t bring third parties into your marriage even if they are your parents. But what do you do when you are lost and need guidance? Continue reading

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